What Is Wrong With People?!

I have a confession to make. I get annoyed with stupid people. It's not a small annoyance like an eye roll or a scoff. It's sometimes an annoyance so bad I have to physically and mentally restrain myself from saying or doing something I might wish I hadn't done later.

I get super annoyed by people who do things to not only screw up their lives, but the lives of those around them. The whole, "It's my life I can do what I want" mentality has got to GO! It's not just your life you're ruining you idiot! It's the family, friends, and even strangers that actually give a crap about you that you affect. I'm not immune to my own pet peeves. I can guarantee there have been times in my life where I've been that stupid and naive. They don't happen often, but I'm big enough to admit they happen. I at least learn from my stupidity and try to never again repeat it. Others on the other hand, are ridiculous and I want to smack them upside their knobby looking heads and pray it knocks some sense around. Here is a great example for you.

*Name has been changed to protect idiot's identity*

Once upon a time, I knew this girl named *Bianca. Bianca was a great girl with a wonderful life ahead of her. She had a sweet job that was fairly flexible with her work hours, she was in college working towards her degree in Education, financially responsible, lived on her own with a roommate, just bought a new car that was more reliable, etc. Girl seemed like she had all her crap together right? Well she did. Keyword there was "DID". Now... not so much! I still to this day am unsure how she spiraled so far out of control so quickly. It was like overnight! It's been a year now, but still.

One day she randomly started hanging out with this group of people that probably were not the best. I'm talking druggies, drinkers, sit on the couch all day playing video games because they're too lazy to get a job, moochers. Suddenly you couldn't find Bianca anymore. She'd skip class to hang out with these people and play video games. She started trying drugs and drinking more to feel like she belonged with this new crowd. It escalated to the point she was staying out all night and hooking up with random people she'd just met. What happened to the girl who had her head on straight?! Stupidity that's what happened!

She got so involved with these people that she quit her job, dropped out of school, and started living on the couch at whoever's house would let her stay for a few days. What a terrible life! Her new car got repo'd, she racked up credit card debt out the wazoo, and was begging for money from anyone that would still give her the time of day. She burned so many bridges with the people that loved her, that now... no one really cares. Sure we'd be sad if something happened to her, but I'm not about to go drop $1,700 and bail her out of jail. Once upon a time...maybe, but now she can kiss my rear end!

The funny thing about stupid people and their path of self-destruction is you never really know when their rock bottom is going to hit. You think it's coming and you prepare yourself for the imminent impact, but lo and behold! It was just a shadow in the way because they kept right on falling. What sucks is 90% of the time you can see where this epic failure in common sense is going to lead them, but they're so belligerent and determined to live their own lives that they won't listen to save themselves. Thus was the case with Bianca.

She bounced around from house to house, from shady apartment to camping tent, and all the other awful places in between for a year. She'd shack up with creepy, dirty, nasty men just trying to fill some void of self-acceptance. At one point after meeting this guy for a month or so, announced she was getting married. We were all shocked! Are you serious?! You've known him for a few weeks and think he's "the one"?! Whatever crazy girl.

Soon enough, that doomed relationship ended and we waited for her to wake up and get herself back together. Sadly, that didn't happen. She went back to the deadbeat loser that introduced her to all the drugs and drinking and got herself knocked up. I have no idea how they think they're going to support themselves and a child. Honestly, I have no clue whose couch they're currently sleeping on! What I do know, is that she's now ruined her life!

She and this guy are together one second, and then they're not and she's shacked up with someone else. That ends, and she comes crawling back to him. He's emotionally abusive, won't get a job because it interferes with his video gaming, and has no desire to do much of anything with his life. She's having a child with this CHILD! He's got no desire to grow up and provide for a family. The thing about having a baby with someone is they're going to be a part of YOUR life forever! Did she not realize that? It's not like you can break up and walk away and never talk again. No, you have to tolerate each other for the sake of your child. You have to discuss custody issues, who gets the child on what holiday, can they or can they not take the kid on vacation in another state/country, agree on a school district, etc. Things that honestly, I doubt she's thought about...

I think the thing that frustrates me the most about this whole situation with Bianca, is she did the pregnancy on purpose. She wanted to have something that would love her and that she could love. That makes me both annoyed and sad. Sad because she felt she needed something to make her feel important in life, something that no matter what she did would love her, and something that depended on her for everything. There are other ways to feel that, you don't need to involve an innocent child.

Speaking of that innocent child; no child should be brought into the world under those circumstances! That's what annoys me the most. She's not even close to being prepared for motherhood. She can't even take care of herself, let alone a child. Her relationship with this crazy fool is far from stable, she's still bouncing around from place to place, and I highly doubt she's thought the next 19 years out. A baby is not the same as a puppy! You can't get one, decide it's not for you and give it back. You are emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and financially responsible for this human life until they reach 18 years old. Even then, you're still tied to them because it's your child! Oh my goodness I want to slap her so bad!

Part of this frustration is probably from the fact that I love and want kids but know I'm not at a place in my life for them. I thought getting married so young, I'd start a family with the hubby early and life would be great! That didn't turn out the way I'd hoped it would. But the thing is, I know and realize that I'm not ready for them right now. For one, I don't have a baby daddy. Granted I could probably go along this journey alone and there are many brave and wonderful women who do, but why would I do that? I want the absolute best for my children. I want them to have loving parents who adore them and will move Hell and high water to protect them and provide for them. I want an amazing partner in crime who will not only help me raise them to be respectable members of society, but embarrass the crap out of them on their first day of school, first date, first boy/girlfriend, first kiss, etc. So, I'll wait until I can give them that. I love my future children enough to make sure I'm prepared to give them the life they deserve.

Sometimes being a responsible adult is hard work. I can only hope it's worth it in the end!